PREPARE
Free Guide  ·  Milan J. Nollinn

What Most People Never Do
Before a Difficult Conversation

A 5-question clarity tool that changes how every hard conversation begins

Most people prepare what they're going to say.
Almost nobody prepares who they're going to be.
These five questions change that — in five minutes, before any conversation.

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"I did these five questions before a conversation I'd been avoiding for months. It went better than any difficult conversation I've ever had."

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The Five Questions

From the Reflect step of the PREPARE Method

1
What exactly happened?
Facts only — no story, no interpretation. What did you actually observe? Most people skip this and start from the story they've already decided is true.
2
What am I actually feeling — underneath the surface emotion?
Go deeper than anger or frustration. Beneath anger there is almost always fear. Beneath frustration, an unmet expectation. Name the real thing.
3
What is my contribution to this situation?
Even a small one. What did you do, or not do, that contributed? This is the question most people skip — and the one that most rapidly de-escalates the conversation.
4
What do I actually need from this conversation?
Not what you want to say — what outcome do you genuinely need? Most people confuse what they want to express with what they actually need to receive.
5
What would a genuinely good outcome look like?
Be specific and realistic. Not the ideal — the genuinely good. When you can picture it clearly, you can work toward it deliberately.

These five questions come from the Reflect step of the PREPARE Method — the internal preparation phase that most communication frameworks skip entirely. They take 15 minutes. They change everything that follows.

The PREPARE Method
The Conversation Before the Conversation
Milan J. Nollinn
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These five questions are just
the beginning of the PREPARE Method

The complete 7-step framework — all 12 chapters, five real-world conversation clinics, and the PREPARE Worksheet you can use before every difficult conversation you face — is in the full book.

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The Complete PREPARE Method
P Pause — Interrupt the reactive cycle before it starts
R Reflect — Examine what you actually feel and need
E Express — Clarify your message and how to say it
P Present — Set the stage for a conversation that can work
A Ask — Create genuine space for the other perspective
R Respond — Navigate the conversation with skill
E Extend — Move toward understanding and forward motion